David and his men provided orderliness, protection, and governance in the region, where he hid from Saul. It was a kind of tax that Nabal was obliged to give to David, which he refused. Indeed, David was in a bad mood of anger and was ready to punish Nabal and his household. One servant prudently informed Abigail, his wife and she took the initiative to defuse the situation. (I Samuel 25)
Woman of action: Like the virtuous woman described in Proverbs, she immediately responded to the crisis with creativity, generosity, and wisdom.
Abigail saw David: Abigail with her servants and gifts marched through hilly terrain. David probably could see the contingent from his hiding, but Abigail could not. When she came near, David was surprised to see a great procession with gifts and a beautiful woman leading it.
Took the blame: Abigail began the conversation taking the blame on herself, though it was her husband’s fault.
Permission: Then she asked permission for her to speak. It was a polite way to express his cause.
Positive outcome: She wisely said that the Lord had restrained David from unwarranted bloodshed.
Present: Abigail said that the food and gifts she had brought were for the young men who were following David. Abigail did not mention it was for him, that would show him as money-minded or his offended dignity, could be compromised with money.
Pardon: She asked David to forgive her. It was a straightforward, humble request.
Praised David: Though David was not right to attack Nabal, Abigail reminded him that God had chosen him to fight the battle of the Lord and that evil was not found in him throughout his day.
Prophetic insight: Abigail told David that his house would be an enduring house, which was later affirmed by Nathan. (II Samuel 7:16)
Admonished: Abigail gently admonished David not to do something for which he would later regret and grieve. She asked David to commit to the Lord, as vengeance is God’s prerogative.
Am I willing to receive advice like David and admonish like Abigail?