Selfishness is focusing on and prioritizing one’s own interests over others. It can ruin relationships in families and among friends and could lead to other sins. Paul advises believers not to do anything with selfish ambition. (Philippians 2:3) John Piper writes about five traits of selfishness in his book: Brothers, We Are Not Professionals.
Expect to be served:
Those who are selfish expect others to serve them. For them, serving does not come naturally. They believe that everyone—including children, spouses, relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbors, officials, and even strangers—should serve them. Also, they consider serving others to be beneath their dignity. However, the Lord Jesus Christ washed the feet of His disciples.
I am owed:
An entitlement mentality is a natural trait of a selfish person. “I deserve this” is a frequent phrase on their lips. They believe others are obliged to do them favors, provide services, and bring gifts and respect.
Desire and want praise:
Popularity is another pursuit. Selfish individuals expect others to praise them as excellent and the best. They seek public and verbal praise. On social media, they desire to be liked by all and receive only positive feedback. Even if they do not deserve praise, they still crave it.
My way:
They always make autocratic decisions. Dictating, dominating, and directing are their normal ways of relating to others. Without considering other people’s choices or preferences, they impose their decisions. Children cannot choose their education, career, or spouse. In the workplace, they do not listen to others’ opinions and force their decisions upon colleagues. When others do not comply, they resort to emotional blackmail.
Right to be negative:
When they dislike a comment or action from others, they react negatively. Sometimes their responses are bullish and brutish. They are naturally short-tempered and lack patience. Usually, they use abrasive and aggressive words.
Christ-centered disciples:
The followers of the Lord Jesus Christ are expected not to be self-centered or even others-centered, but Christ-centered. This means following the model of the Lord, submitting to the Lordship of the Spirit, and being guided by the Word of God.
Am I a Christ-centered disciple?